I’ve just started a new Bible Study plan with a devotional on my iphone/ipad. It is in the Bible app by Lifechurch.tv, which is by Youversion. I can’t believe how many different Bible reading plans they have, I think it is over 150. Many of them have devotionals to go with them! I looked through a few of them and decided to try out the 21-Day Plan for Busy Women. It goes through the Bible highlighting the famous and not-so-famous women of the Bible and asks questions each day to help you trade in your “just-get-through-it life” for the “rich and satisfying life” that Jesus promised us.
I just finished up day two. (Yes, I made it to day 2! LOL) Anyway, my purpose for this post was to talk about the influences that we (as women) have over people. Day 2′s study highlighted Delilah and Jezebel. Whew! They had influence all right, but not the kind that they should be proud of! I found it interesting that Delilah, through her nagging, was able to influence her husband to give away his secret to his strength. As women, we have HUGE influence over our husbands and families (whether or not you intend to).
I have noticed that just how I react to a question my husband asks me will determine how he acts. For example, when he asks me after dinner if I want to have devotional time with the family my response (or lack of one) will totally determine what we do for the evening. If I am excited to do it and encouraging then we will have family devotions. But the opposite is true also. If I ho-hum or seem tired or put it off then guess what? No family devotions that day. That’s not good. Even when someone has the best intentions, our influence can change that.
I am sure that this type of thing happens in all kinds ways each an every day. I know that I don’t notice them all the time. Do you? I want to be the kind of wife who has a positive influence on my husband and children. Am I influencing my children well? Am I excited about sports, reading, musical instruments, art, God etc? The things that interest me, or that I influence my children to like may be the things that they do. They may all be good things, but are they the things God wants me to influence and encourage them in?
How about with our friends? When our friend unloads on us about a situation with her husband, children etc how do we respond? Our response could have a very large influence on how she reacts to a situation. Be careful in what you say and how you respond.
Ephesians 4:29-5:2 says 29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. 1 Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children 2 and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.
I found some great advice on T-H-I-N-K ing before we speak. We should ask ourselves these questions before we speak:
- Truth of God’s Word – Is what I say going to line up with the Bible?
- Helpful – Is what I say going to help someone or a situation?
- Inspire – Is what I say going to inspire people?
- Needed – Is what I say needed or necessary?
- Kind – Is what I say kind?
I just want to challenge myself and you to be aware of the influences we have on others and to make sure that they are the influences that God wants us to have.