So….What does a perfect house look like to you?
As our family is just now coming out of a week of celebrating Christmas, a week of tech rehearsals and a musical, and then preparing for a new baby who was then late…. I’m not sure what the perfect house looks like anymore.
And I’m not sure that I want perfect. Perfect is not real.
Perfect is idealized and idolized. And we never can match up. As I have gotten older, or maybe more seasoned as a mom, or added more kids to our family I have realized that expectations change all the time. And they should change. What I expected to accomplish when I was a mom with one child was very different than now… homeschooling four kids and also having a preschooler and a newborn. In fact as I’m writing this I’m not even sure what my expectations are. We are still very much in an adjustment phase. And I am going to be OK with that.
I think as moms we need to sit down and decide with our husbands and God what we should expect of ourselves, spouses, children and home.
I want a house is filled with love, that is relatively clean, and is a place where our family can enjoy being with each other and learning what it means to serve God daily.
Let’s not live in the Pinterest world where everything seems to be perfect. Even in reading other peoples blogs it’s easy to get the idea that everything they do is perfect. The fact of the matter is that technology and the internet give us messed up perceptions as to what people’s lives are really like. We are really only seeing small snippets of anyone’s lives. And those small snippets are the ones that they chose to show us….usually the good and not so much the bad and ugly! In fact, we aren’t supposed to be comparing ourselves to one another. What God wants for each one of us is so different….we need to seek Him daily to see what he expects of us!
We would like to announce that Lincoln James was born on Saturday, January 12th
21 inches and weighing 7 lbs, 13 ozs.
All 5 kids meeting baby for the first time
We are home and adjusting well! I will try to post our birth story soon. It was quite a doozy! I have never had a labor quite like this one!
If you have been following the pregnancy link-up over at My Joy-Filled Journey this is linked up!
Week 40+ update
Who would have thought I would still be pregnant? Not me! The latest I have been has been 3 days….today is 2 days past due. So back to the midwife today for a post 40 week appointment! Baby is still really high! I had lost 1/2 lb since last week. Now the testing begins. Assuming I am still pregnant I will have to go in tomorrow and Monday to have biophyiscal testing and ultrasounds to see how baby is doing. My midwife really doesn’t like people to go past 41 weeks so we need to start thinking about induction dates if we get to that point! Agh! Anyone been induced? How has that gone? Advice?
The emotional stress of it all is worse than the physical uncomfortableness. I totally feel like a watched pot! I
love hate how everyone thinks I am in charge of this pregnancy and labor. I can’t even count on 2 hands how many times I have heard that I should hurry things up etc….all from well meaning people who would never mean to say anything that would upset me.
My Facebook update today was: “We would like to introduce you to…”Sacha-is-still-pregnant-Thursday”. Hope it is a good day for you! (At least I still have a sense of humor, right?)”
I will go back to my chiropractor/acupuncture person tomorrow morning in hopes that he can stir things up a bit! Hoping that we will be holding a little baby in the very near future!
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Week 39 update
This is going to be a short update. We have been super busy with Oliver rehearsals this week and I have been really tired! Here’s a photo of my husband and I at one of the dress rehearsals. The question is who is bigger and who will deliver first?
I have been craving cherry lime drinks recently. But really haven’t been able to eat much. Cereal is one of the only things that sounds good to me! I really haven’t gained much weight the last 4 weeks….I lose a pound 1 week and then maybe gain in back 2 weeks later.
At my last midwife appointment the baby was still head down! yea! But he hadn’t dropped yet and was really high up. However, a few hours after that, I had 2 ladies come up to me and say the baby dropped. I hadn’t even noticed, I was so busy getting my kids to look like orphans for the show. But sure enough, he had because I could breathe again! He has dropped even more in the last couple days and now my legs hit my stomach when I walk up the stairs (Which I try to do as infrequently as possible)!
So now begins the waiting game… A bit stressful since I feel like we have a lot of people wanting Tim to be at the show this weekend in his role! I know whatever happens will be just fine and everyone will adjust! Tim’s mom is on her way now to come see the show and then she will stay with us until I deliver. I’m hoping for delivering Monday, but I’m thinking it will probably be a bit later in the week. My due date in Tuesday. 2 of my kids were due date babies, 2 were late (2 and 3 days) and only 1 was early!
Week 38 update
I have been waiting to write this update because I wanted to find out if the baby was headdown yet.
This past week has been a week of little sleep, lots of stress, and lots of sickness in our family. Having to figure out whether or not we should try an external version was very stressful.
We finally made the decision not to try the version. It made me really nervous about putting the baby in danger and ending up with a C-section. Sowe had a C-section scheduled for the day before my due date. This was in case the baby did not turn. I felt so at peace once we had made that decision. I hadn’t slept for a few nights worrying about how to make a decision and if we were making the right one.
I am beyond thrilled to announce that at my ultrasound Thursday the baby was head down! We still continue to ask for prayer that the baby will settle into my pelvis and not decide to flip around again. You can imagine how happy I am not be thinking about having to have surgery in 10 days!
Six out of the seven of us have spent the last week and a half dealing with the flu with that lovely cough that seems to be going around. I am thinking we should all be over it by the time the baby comes.
After the ultrasound today I had about two hours to kill before my midwife appointment. So I decided to go get a pedicure. I haven’t had one in like 18 months. That was a fun little splurge and very relaxing.
I’ve been taking the little bouts of energy I have here and there to reorganize things. Yesterday I tried to organize a couple more shelves in the school room and I also emptied out the freezer in our kitchen and realized that we had some food in there that was 18 months old. Yuck. I guess that is what happens when you end up with continual nausea since May!!!
Here’s a quick shot of my belly from this past week:
I am really looking forward to enjoying the next week with lots of things to keep us busy! New Year’s Eve and tech week for Oliver. The show is next weekend Jan 4,5, and 6.
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